Evocative Emotional Unfolding (unlocking core emotions is the key to growth and happiness)

Fostering the Change Process:  Discharge – Discrepancy – Ambivalence – Change Action

Transition from Triangulated Relationships to Authentic Relationships

Triangulation =  You + Other Person(s) + Joining Entity (work, school, activity, etc.)

Key question:  When the triangulating entity is gone, does the relationship simply dissolve?

Authentic Relationship = You + Other Person

Male Box = Anxious-Avoidance-Ambivalent Attachment learned by males, which restricts development of authentic relationships

Key Principle to Building Authentic Relationships: “Don’t just do something; stand there.”

Triple-Knot:  important childhood and developmental patterns

3.  Public Persona

2.  Emotions driving the Public Persona

1.  Internalized Inadequacies

Numbing distractions:  TV, video games, movies, internet, cell-phone, I-pod, alcohol, illicit substances, etc

Fractured Self to Integrated Self = Living in the Moment

Establishing and maintaining appropriate limits and boundaries in relationships

Biggest Challenge to Personal Growth = Withstanding the “Family Hurricane”